Good Morning,
Another beautiful day! Thank you to all of you who responded to my blog. I am very appreciative of all your kind words and welcome your suggestions for improvement. I know this sounds a bit odd, or different, but when I am given constructive criticism, I not only take it under advisement, but believe that you are a part of my tapestry, a piece of the puzzle that will make my life even better. All the words that you share with me, all your heartfelt sentiments inspire me and if and when you disagree, you are helping me to do better. So, thank you.
In January 2012, I went to many of you, my dear friends and shared openly with you. You were so patient with me, compassionate and allowed me the benefit of handling things in my own way. You shared your thoughts, asked me questions and listened so intently to me that I was aware of the closeness of our relationship. Your love was palpable to me. I decided that I would write down all the words that all of you said to me. I keep them in my book and I refer to them when I need to be uplifted. You make me feel worthy of your friendship and confidence. I am truly honored to have a meaningful relationship with you. Ralph Waldo Emerson said these words and they are among my favorites to live by.... " The only gift is a portion of thyself. " Imagine all the tangible gifts purchased throughout your life. And imagine that when it is all said and done, the gift of YOU is the best gift that anyone could ever receive. Giving of yourself is what you do for me, and I realize that my relationships, friendships with people are what make me feel alive. Thank you for the gift of you.
A few years ago, I learned a valuable piece of information. People need three things in life and believe it or not Love is not one of them. People need to feel valued, important and needed. I remember these words and teach the principle using the acronym
VIN... Valued... Important..... Needed.
If you have the wherewithal to be aware of this when you are with others, and apply the principle of finding ways to make others feel this way, then the law of attraction is being applied. I apply this with my students, telling them specifically what they do right. I let them know how lucky and thankful I am that I know them and actually get to spend my days with them. Now, I guess in a way, that is showing love, creating a loving and nurturing environment, but when the principle was learned the word love was not mentioned. What I find these words do for others is empower and inspire them to live their highest intention.
I also learned another principle and want to share it with you. You may know it as well, people don't always remember what you do, they may not always remember exactly what you say, but they always remember the way you make them feel. I relate to this principle on an intrinsic level.
I was blessed to have remarkable parents. My dear Mother was my treasure. I love my Mom.... she passed away when I was 29 years old. I remember thinking at the time that I was thankful that I had her that long as she was ill for most of my childhood. I was very thankful that she got to see my babies. In retrospect, it was not very long at all. My Mom was my cheerleader. Somehow she always found a way to make me like myself a whole lot more when I was around her. Her enthusiasm, her encouragement, her guidance using stories of others, (which now that I am grown, have often wondered if she created just to make her point or teach the lesson) made me always want to be close to her emotionally and physically. She was most definitely my Beacon Of Light.
Another beautiful day! Thank you to all of you who responded to my blog. I am very appreciative of all your kind words and welcome your suggestions for improvement. I know this sounds a bit odd, or different, but when I am given constructive criticism, I not only take it under advisement, but believe that you are a part of my tapestry, a piece of the puzzle that will make my life even better. All the words that you share with me, all your heartfelt sentiments inspire me and if and when you disagree, you are helping me to do better. So, thank you.
In January 2012, I went to many of you, my dear friends and shared openly with you. You were so patient with me, compassionate and allowed me the benefit of handling things in my own way. You shared your thoughts, asked me questions and listened so intently to me that I was aware of the closeness of our relationship. Your love was palpable to me. I decided that I would write down all the words that all of you said to me. I keep them in my book and I refer to them when I need to be uplifted. You make me feel worthy of your friendship and confidence. I am truly honored to have a meaningful relationship with you. Ralph Waldo Emerson said these words and they are among my favorites to live by.... " The only gift is a portion of thyself. " Imagine all the tangible gifts purchased throughout your life. And imagine that when it is all said and done, the gift of YOU is the best gift that anyone could ever receive. Giving of yourself is what you do for me, and I realize that my relationships, friendships with people are what make me feel alive. Thank you for the gift of you.
A few years ago, I learned a valuable piece of information. People need three things in life and believe it or not Love is not one of them. People need to feel valued, important and needed. I remember these words and teach the principle using the acronym
VIN... Valued... Important..... Needed.
If you have the wherewithal to be aware of this when you are with others, and apply the principle of finding ways to make others feel this way, then the law of attraction is being applied. I apply this with my students, telling them specifically what they do right. I let them know how lucky and thankful I am that I know them and actually get to spend my days with them. Now, I guess in a way, that is showing love, creating a loving and nurturing environment, but when the principle was learned the word love was not mentioned. What I find these words do for others is empower and inspire them to live their highest intention.
I also learned another principle and want to share it with you. You may know it as well, people don't always remember what you do, they may not always remember exactly what you say, but they always remember the way you make them feel. I relate to this principle on an intrinsic level.
I was blessed to have remarkable parents. My dear Mother was my treasure. I love my Mom.... she passed away when I was 29 years old. I remember thinking at the time that I was thankful that I had her that long as she was ill for most of my childhood. I was very thankful that she got to see my babies. In retrospect, it was not very long at all. My Mom was my cheerleader. Somehow she always found a way to make me like myself a whole lot more when I was around her. Her enthusiasm, her encouragement, her guidance using stories of others, (which now that I am grown, have often wondered if she created just to make her point or teach the lesson) made me always want to be close to her emotionally and physically. She was most definitely my Beacon Of Light.
I remember when she was so ill... we knew she was not going to live much longer. I was devasted knowing that I was losing my best friend and didn't have my Mother to console me, and also because I was losing my MOTHER and didn't have my best friend to help me bear the loss. I remember telling her about this and she had the most profound response..... Marialyce.... I promise that I will always be there for you when you need me. I will tell God, you GAVE ME THAT CHILD, and she needs me now. So whatever assignment you have me on, I need to take a leave, because I have to help my Marialyce. I believed her... I believed my Mother... and honestly, I have had some major... Major experiences happen to me in the last 21 years.... and my Mother was always, Always there for me. A Mother's love never dies. So are you curious how I get my Mom's attention when I am losing my mind and at my wit's end. I will tell you. It is our code. I asked my Mom, how will you know that I am in desparate need of you and when you have to be present to me. Mom said let's have a code. She said, Marialyce you pick the code.... Our code....is
M-O-M. I say the letters out loud. Now I can tell you that I do not hear my mother speak to me. No, it is not like a conversation.... My mother guides me through a variety of vessels. Many times you have been a messenger for her. You may share something with me, and I know that it is a sign of her presence. It is a blue moment. I am thankful. Over time, I would very much like to share the ways that my mother has communicated with me. I wonder if that would interest you. I would appreciate your thoughts.
And so for today.... I wish for you to choose someone in your life...perhaps a child, a spouse, a friend, a neighbor or maybe even the cashier at the food store. Express openly that their existence matters to you. Let them know that they are important. The fact that you are crossing paths in life with them is valuable to you and they are valuable. That, in this moment, you needed them and they were there. Then, watch their reaction. See the smile on their face. Watch the joy, well up in their being. It is truly amazing. The only gift....is a portion of thyself.... rwe.
En`Joy,
Marialyce
Your blog is so beautiful, Marialyce! I am so inspired from you already! I simply LOVED learning more about your wonderful relationship with your Mother and how you CONTINUED that relationship even after she went to Heaven. That is so awesome. I remember loving your mother, my Great Aunt Bernadette so much. I remember how sweet she was and I remember all the beautiful religious statues she had in her bedroom. She made me promise her that I would never smoke because she didn't want it harming my lungs, and I remembered my promise to her for the rest of my life...and she got me through the peer pressure of high school and college when people offered me cigarettes or drugs. So, I will always be grateful to her for that. She was a beautiful woman, both inside and out. No wonder you are the way YOU are! You are just like her!!
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