Hello Friend,

I am going to continue with the Third Agreement.....Don't Make Assumptions.  We all do this.... we make assumptions about what others are thinking or doing.  We take things personally and then blame the other person.  The problem with making assumptions is that we believe that they are true.  Generally speaking, we only see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear.  Doing so is only asking for problems in our relationships.   There is a way to avoid this problem and that is to ask questions for clarification.  Communication is paramount.   Another way is to not have expectations.  If you don't have expectations, then you won't be disappointed.  There will be no need to assume anything.

This is one agreement that is quite a challenge for me.  I think because I don't always want to keep asking questions, because the person will think I am being nosy, when really all I am doing is caring.  To avoid the conflict of "why are you asking,"  I assume and then I get on the hamster mobile, going around and around with the 'situation.'

The Fourth Agreement is  .....  Always Do Your Best.   This last agreement allows the other agreements to become deeply ingrained habits.   Our best will be different depending on how we feel physically and emotionally.  If we are exhausted our response to a circumstance will be different than if we are rested.   Doing our very best, means that we will live without regrets.  When you look in your mirror, you will know with a certain confidence that you have lived your truth.   Doing your best, allows you to be fully alive and in the moment, because you don't have to think about the action, you just do it!   It is freeing and empowering.

My wish for you this day, is to choose to assume nothing and choose to do your best.  Remember we only are going to get one September 18, 2012, in all of our life.  This is it..... Carpe Diem!

En` Joy,

Marialyce